When a relationship ends, we tend to wonder where it went wrong. Were there any warning signs that she lost interest? Yes. But you were so wrapped up in the relationship or with other things that you didn’t even see it coming. Here are eight warning signs she is no longer interested, or maybe these are how you are acting.

Either way it is time to take a closer look at your relationship and decide whether you want it or not.

• She hasn’t called you for a few days.

This isn’t necessarily a sign that it is over, but if you are use to her calling frequently then there is something wrong.

• Picking fights.

Does she fly off the handle more than usual? Is she causing arguments over stupid little things? This is often a bad case when people are no longer interested in a relationship but they don’t want to be the one to end it. Don’t beat about the bush. Ask him out right if she is no longer interested in the relationship.

• She’s being secretive.

She no longer wants to tell you where she has been or who was on the phone. Maybe the phone is off limits to you. She disappears for hours without an explanation.

• She no longer refers to “we” but “I”.

You use to sit and plan your future together. “We are going to do this, we are going to do that”. Now it is “I am going to do this”. You are no longer included in his future.

• She’d rather spend time with his friends than you.

You have to fight with her friends for her attention. Before you were most important in his life. Now her friends are more important than you.

• You no longer talk.

Once upon a time you would sit and have discussions about everything from the weather to what is happening to the ozone. Now she just answers everything with a “yes”. You no longer have deep discussions.

• Friends start asking what’s wrong.

Friends begin to notice tension or distance between you. They start asking if everything’s “all right”.

• She’s more critical of you.

“That’s a horrible shirt,” he says. Yet she helped you pick it out only a few weeks ago.

Remember that these are only warning signs and, in fact, your relationship may just be going through a rough patch. Talk to each other first before you do anything you may regret.